Good Manners – Traditional and Contemporary

george hancockstefanAs my wife and I are celebrating a milestone in our married life (30 years), I was looking at the cards and congratulations that came from friends and relatives.  I read them, but I came to the conclusion that there were fewer in number than in the past.  Hallmark is still doing good business at our house – both in receiving and in sending, but I think my evaluation is correct.

When I came to my first pastorate in Hightstown, I was adopted as a grandson by a wonderful retired teacher.  Among many things that I observed in her home was the methodical way in which she would send cards and letters.  There was a large supply of cards for various occasions on her desk.  One Saturday a month was designated for writing cards and letters and then setting them up to mail one week before the event took place.  After I got married, our family moved to the Midwest and without fail, the first anniversary or birthday cards were from Grandma Grace Rogers.

Later on, when I became the Pastor of this church and we published in our monthly newsletter birthdates and anniversaries, I became aware of the small group that we had in our church who would regularly send cards to our church members and friends.  In fact, I was so impressed with their practice that for a number of years, I would send little memos entitled “I Prayed for You Today.”  In these memos, I would write about what I considered their gifts in the Kingdom of God through which they have blessed our congregation and some of the things that I asked the Lord to bless them in that day.

Now I have to confess that the Hallmark Corporation is kept alive and well in our family by my wife.  In fact, there have been a number of times in which my sisters who live on the West Coast and who know me fairly well would mention in phone conversation to thank my wife for the lovely card and note which she sent them and somehow I managed to appendage my name to the signatures.

When I mentioned to my wife that I saw that over the years there has been a reduction in the cards that she would display in various places for me to see, she told me that many of our friends now do the greetings and the exchanges of these cards over Facebook and other communication means which I rarely visit. Indeed, my daughter showed me recently that I had over 120 friend requests waiting for me on my Facebook page.

Good manners in traditional or contemporary ways are important as long as you do them. Remembering people enough to do something for them strengthens our relationship with one another.  I read a recent statistic that we are more effective in our work but are also getting lonelier. In this age of fascinating communication, we are communicating less with people that we know or we consider important in our lives.

Why not take a minute and send a card, or if you are by your computer and that is the way you communicate, send a message to your friends that you have thought of them, that you remembered their birthdays, or that you want to rejoice with them in their anniversaries.

Good Manners – Traditional and Contemporary

george hancockstefanAs my wife and I are celebrating a milestone in our married life (30 years), I was looking at the cards and congratulations that came from friends and relatives.  I read them, but I came to the conclusion that there were fewer in number than in the past.  Hallmark is still doing good business at our house – both in receiving and in sending, but I think my evaluation is correct.

When I came to my first pastorate in Hightstown, I was adopted as a grandson by a wonderful retired teacher.  Among many things that I observed in her home was the methodical way in which she would send cards and letters.  There was a large supply of cards for various occasions on her desk.  One Saturday a month was designated for writing cards and letters and then setting them up to mail one week before the event took place.  After I got married, our family moved to the Midwest and without fail, the first anniversary or birthday cards were from Grandma Grace Rogers.

Later on, when I became the Pastor of this church and we published in our monthly newsletter birthdates and anniversaries, I became aware of the small group that we had in our church who would regularly send cards to our church members and friends.  In fact, I was so impressed with their practice that for a number of years, I would send little memos entitled “I Prayed for You Today.”  In these memos, I would write about what I considered their gifts in the Kingdom of God through which they have blessed our congregation and some of the things that I asked the Lord to bless them in that day.

Now I have to confess that the Hallmark Corporation is kept alive and well in our family by my wife.  In fact, there have been a number of times in which my sisters who live on the West Coast and who know me fairly well would mention in phone conversation to thank my wife for the lovely card and note which she sent them and somehow I managed to appendage my name to the signatures.

When I mentioned to my wife that I saw that over the years there has been a reduction in the cards that she would display in various places for me to see, she told me that many of our friends now do the greetings and the exchanges of these cards over Facebook and other communication means which I rarely visit. Indeed, my daughter showed me recently that I had over 120 friend requests waiting for me on my Facebook page.

Good manners in traditional or contemporary ways are important as long as you do them. Remembering people enough to do something for them strengthens our relationship with one another.  I read a recent statistic that we are more effective in our work but are also getting lonelier. In this age of fascinating communication, we are communicating less with people that we know or we consider important in our lives.

Why not take a minute and send a card, or if you are by your computer and that is the way you communicate, send a message to your friends that you have thought of them, that you remembered their birthdays, or that you want to rejoice with them in their anniversaries.

The New Jersey Democratic State Committee Launches the South Asian American Caucus

Edison, NJ – The New Jersey Democratic State Committee (NJDSC) today joined with leaders from the South Asian community to officially kickoff the South Asian American Caucus. This inaugural event represents the culmination of the New Jersey State Democratic Party’s commitment to this growing and vibrant community, a community that has long supported democratic values in the state. New Jersey has the third largest South Asian population after California and New York. According to the latest census data, there are more than 350,000 South Asians residing in New Jersey. The South Asian community is very diverse. It includes people of Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi and Sri Lankan descent.

The kickoff was attended by the highest ranking South Asian American elected to office in New Jersey, Assemblyman Upendra Chivukula (D-LD17), the Chairman of the NJDSC, John Currie, gubernatorial candidate Senator Barbara Buono, and members of the South Asian American community.

“Over the years, I have worked very closely with members of the South Asian community, who are not only my colleagues, but also my friends,” said John Currie, Chairman, New Jersey Democratic State Committee. “The South Asian community is diligent, dedicated, and passionate about moving the Garden State forward. Operating under the New Jersey Democratic State Committee umbrella, the South Asian American Caucus will be a place to organize and motivate an increasingly influential constituency.”

“With the growth of our communities over the past four decades, South Asian Americans have an important place on New Jersey’s commercial and cultural scene,” said Dr. Khyati Y. Joshi, Co-chair, New Jersey State Democratic Committee South Asian American Caucus. “This caucus will create opportunities for South Asian Americans to take on roles of political prominence that reflect our communities’ achievements.”

Gubernatorial candidate, Barbara Buono, who actively engaged with the NJ South Asian community on the Anti-Bullying legislation, reaffirmed her commitment to continue working closely with the South Asian American community.

“Members of our community, in preparation for the November 5th elections, have actively been engaged in voter registration drives across the state. The Caucus will build upon that work and mobilize our community to support Democratic leaders, such as Senator Buono, who have demonstrated their commitment to New Jersey’s South Asian community,” stated Satish Poondi, Co-Chair of the South Asian American Caucus.

The leadership of the South Asian American Caucus believes in the core democratic values of equal opportunity and economic justice, as well as the rights of women, minorities and immigrants to participate fully and equally in the promise of the United States. The South Asian American Caucus will offer a statewide platform within New Jersey’s Democratic State Committee to discuss issues important to the South Asian community and to support and elevate members of our community interested in pursuing elected office. 

About Dr. Khyati Joshi, Co-Chair, NJDSC South Asian American Caucus Dr. Khyati Y. Joshi is an Associate Professor in the School of Education at Fairleigh Dickinson University. She is the author of New Roots in America’s Sacred Ground: Religion, Race and Ethnicity in Indian America and numerous other publications.

About Satish Poondi, Co-Chair, NJDSC South Asian American Caucus Satish Poondi, Esq. is an associate at the law firm of Wilentz, Goldman & Spitzer P.A. and a member of its Mass Tort / Class Action Team. Mr. Poondi is also a registered pharmacist, completing the Doctor of Pharmacy program at Rutgers University. He is active in the field of pharmacy academia. He is an advisor to multiple pharmacy organizations and a guest lecturer at the Ernest Mario School of Pharmacy at Rutgers University. Mr. Poondi regularly presents continuing education seminars relating to important pharmaceutical legal issues for programs sponsored by academic institutions, professional organizations, and retail chains.

The New Jersey Democratic State Committee Launches the South Asian American Caucus

Edison, NJ – The New Jersey Democratic State Committee (NJDSC) today joined with leaders from the South Asian community to officially kickoff the South Asian American Caucus. This inaugural event represents the culmination of the New Jersey State Democratic Party’s commitment to this growing and vibrant community, a community that has long supported democratic values in the state. New Jersey has the third largest South Asian population after California and New York. According to the latest census data, there are more than 350,000 South Asians residing in New Jersey. The South Asian community is very diverse. It includes people of Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi and Sri Lankan descent.

The kickoff was attended by the highest ranking South Asian American elected to office in New Jersey, Assemblyman Upendra Chivukula (D-LD17), the Chairman of the NJDSC, John Currie, gubernatorial candidate Senator Barbara Buono, and members of the South Asian American community.

“Over the years, I have worked very closely with members of the South Asian community, who are not only my colleagues, but also my friends,” said John Currie, Chairman, New Jersey Democratic State Committee. “The South Asian community is diligent, dedicated, and passionate about moving the Garden State forward. Operating under the New Jersey Democratic State Committee umbrella, the South Asian American Caucus will be a place to organize and motivate an increasingly influential constituency.”

“With the growth of our communities over the past four decades, South Asian Americans have an important place on New Jersey’s commercial and cultural scene,” said Dr. Khyati Y. Joshi, Co-chair, New Jersey State Democratic Committee South Asian American Caucus. “This caucus will create opportunities for South Asian Americans to take on roles of political prominence that reflect our communities’ achievements.”

Gubernatorial candidate, Barbara Buono, who actively engaged with the NJ South Asian community on the Anti-Bullying legislation, reaffirmed her commitment to continue working closely with the South Asian American community.

“Members of our community, in preparation for the November 5th elections, have actively been engaged in voter registration drives across the state. The Caucus will build upon that work and mobilize our community to support Democratic leaders, such as Senator Buono, who have demonstrated their commitment to New Jersey’s South Asian community,” stated Satish Poondi, Co-Chair of the South Asian American Caucus.

The leadership of the South Asian American Caucus believes in the core democratic values of equal opportunity and economic justice, as well as the rights of women, minorities and immigrants to participate fully and equally in the promise of the United States. The South Asian American Caucus will offer a statewide platform within New Jersey’s Democratic State Committee to discuss issues important to the South Asian community and to support and elevate members of our community interested in pursuing elected office. 

About Dr. Khyati Joshi, Co-Chair, NJDSC South Asian American Caucus Dr. Khyati Y. Joshi is an Associate Professor in the School of Education at Fairleigh Dickinson University. She is the author of New Roots in America’s Sacred Ground: Religion, Race and Ethnicity in Indian America and numerous other publications.

About Satish Poondi, Co-Chair, NJDSC South Asian American Caucus Satish Poondi, Esq. is an associate at the law firm of Wilentz, Goldman & Spitzer P.A. and a member of its Mass Tort / Class Action Team. Mr. Poondi is also a registered pharmacist, completing the Doctor of Pharmacy program at Rutgers University. He is active in the field of pharmacy academia. He is an advisor to multiple pharmacy organizations and a guest lecturer at the Ernest Mario School of Pharmacy at Rutgers University. Mr. Poondi regularly presents continuing education seminars relating to important pharmaceutical legal issues for programs sponsored by academic institutions, professional organizations, and retail chains.

$15 Million to Help Eligible Homeowners to Rebuild

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New program administered through New Jersey Community Capital will provide RREM approved homeowners up to $30,000 for rebuilding costs  

TRENTON, NJ – The American Red Cross and the Hurricane Sandy New Jersey Relief Fund, chaired by First Lady Mary Pat Christie, today announced that they are providing a total of $15.2 million for a new program to help eligible New Jersey homeowners rebuild.

Administered by New Jersey Community Capital (NJCC), the program will benefit homeowners who have been awarded Reconstruction, Rehabilitation, Elevation and Mitigation (RREM)grants in Sandy-impacted communities. The program, entitled the RREM Gap Funding Initiative(www.gapfundinginitiative.org), received $10 million from the American Red Cross and a $5.2 million grant from the Hurricane Sandy New Jersey Relief Fund.

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$15 Million to Help Eligible Homeowners to Rebuild

house lift

New program administered through New Jersey Community Capital will provide RREM approved homeowners up to $30,000 for rebuilding costs  

TRENTON, NJ – The American Red Cross and the Hurricane Sandy New Jersey Relief Fund, chaired by First Lady Mary Pat Christie, today announced that they are providing a total of $15.2 million for a new program to help eligible New Jersey homeowners rebuild.

Administered by New Jersey Community Capital (NJCC), the program will benefit homeowners who have been awarded Reconstruction, Rehabilitation, Elevation and Mitigation (RREM)grants in Sandy-impacted communities. The program, entitled the RREM Gap Funding Initiative(www.gapfundinginitiative.org), received $10 million from the American Red Cross and a $5.2 million grant from the Hurricane Sandy New Jersey Relief Fund.

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League of Women Voters of New Jersey Provides Insight on This Year’s Ballot Questions

Trenton, New Jersey— As part of an effort to encourage informed participation in the upcoming General Election, the League of Women Voters of New Jersey Education Fund has posted analyses of the two public questions that will appear on the November 5 ballot. The “in plain language” analyses of the ballot questions can be found on www.lwvnj.org.

“This information gives voters a fighting chance once they’re in the voting booth.  Often ballot questions are complicated and voters appreciate the opportunity to weigh the pros and cons before making a decision,” said Kerry Butch, Executive Director of the League of Women Voters of New Jersey. “Using our nonpartisan informational tools, voters can easily examine the public questions and cast an informed vote.”

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League of Women Voters of New Jersey Provides Insight on This Year’s Ballot Questions

Trenton, New Jersey— As part of an effort to encourage informed participation in the upcoming General Election, the League of Women Voters of New Jersey Education Fund has posted analyses of the two public questions that will appear on the November 5 ballot. The “in plain language” analyses of the ballot questions can be found on www.lwvnj.org.

“This information gives voters a fighting chance once they’re in the voting booth.  Often ballot questions are complicated and voters appreciate the opportunity to weigh the pros and cons before making a decision,” said Kerry Butch, Executive Director of the League of Women Voters of New Jersey. “Using our nonpartisan informational tools, voters can easily examine the public questions and cast an informed vote.”

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Bob Yellen Shoots Rock Stars

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Bob Yellen shoots local musicians, and they love it. He started taking pictures of musicians two years ago when he started dating the country singer Elaine Orzechowski, his now-girlfriend. Bob is a professional photographer who works for CBS Outdoors and LORS studio, but once he started going to Elaine’s concerts, he fell in love with the exuberance and excitement of people making music, and couldn’t help but take pictures.

Gradually the idea of having a show of these pictures took hold. He approached Espresso Joe’s in Keyport, they were receptive to the idea, and a show was borne. Twenty of these photographs will be on view at the coffee house from November 4th until the end of the month. Many of them are of musicians who have played at Espresso Joe’s.

The opening will be Thursday, November 7th, from 4:00 – 7:30 pm. Espresso Joe’s is at 50 West Front St, Keyport, NJ 07735, 732-203-9499. It’s free and you’re invited. It’ll be so much fun, with musicians a-playing, good food, and great company. If you’re into the regional music scene, this show is a must-see.

Bob Yellen Shoots Rock Stars

sweet music photo show

Bob Yellen shoots local musicians, and they love it. He started taking pictures of musicians two years ago when he started dating the country singer Elaine Orzechowski, his now-girlfriend. Bob is a professional photographer who works for CBS Outdoors and LORS studio, but once he started going to Elaine’s concerts, he fell in love with the exuberance and excitement of people making music, and couldn’t help but take pictures.

Gradually the idea of having a show of these pictures took hold. He approached Espresso Joe’s in Keyport, they were receptive to the idea, and a show was borne. Twenty of these photographs will be on view at the coffee house from November 4th until the end of the month. Many of them are of musicians who have played at Espresso Joe’s.

The opening will be Thursday, November 7th, from 4:00 – 7:30 pm. Espresso Joe’s is at 50 West Front St, Keyport, NJ 07735, 732-203-9499. It’s free and you’re invited. It’ll be so much fun, with musicians a-playing, good food, and great company. If you’re into the regional music scene, this show is a must-see.